Most of the women we speak to about their eating habits experience a huge amount of shame, guilt and embarrassment.
They feel like binge eating is a sign of weakness, a lack of self discipline, or that they should have been able to fix it themselves by now.
To quote Queen Brene Brown “Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love or belonging” and because “Shame depends on me buying into the belief that I’m alone,” most women often hide away in shame and try to fix it on their own.
They try willpower. Unfortunately, the more you use willpower to “not think about binging” the worse it gets. The more you try to distract yourself from the cravings, suppress the urges, or do battle with your thoughts, the more they amplify and get louder.
They try abstaining from “binge foods” altogether. That also makes it worse. Eventually you give yourself “just a taste” and all hell breaks loose! Why? Because you’ve conditioned your brain into scarcity so it’s going to do everything it can to satisfy not just this craving, but all future cravings you could ever have!
They try meditation, journaling, self hypnosis. All great self development tools, but unfortunately they don’t fix binge eating.
Every week we speak to women who have wasted YEARS hiding away in shame, trying to fix their issues on their own so that nobody else would ever have to find out. But here’s the truth…
PEOPLE ALREADY KNOW!
Often they know about the binge eating itself without you even realising it. In one of our client testimonials Suzy tells us that her husband said he was no longer finding crisp packets (chips for our US friends) under the couch. She said she didn’t even know he knew.
But even if you manage to hide the binge eating itself, they know something’s wrong. Your self doubt, insecurity, and emotional struggle is blindingly obvious to anyone with eyes and ears. It leaks out in all your behaviours.
Whether you’re short tempered and snappy, or distant, detached and emotionally unavailable, or rejecting your fella/husbands advances, or cancelling social events, or hiding yourself in busy work…
… you are NOT showing up as the calm, confident, bold, decisive, spontaneous, carefree, fun loving spirit you know is inside.
So people may or may not know the specifics, but they know you’re struggling, and they know you’re not coping with stuff. You’re faking that you’re coping. Other people can tell but they don’t bring it up because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. It’s the elephant in the room and everybody is playing the same bullshit game of pretending it’s not there.
So let’s eliminate the shame once and for all so that you can give up the act, admit that you’re struggling, and ask for help.
First of all, binge eating is not a sign of weakness. It’s an unconsciously learned behaviour. That means you learnt it accidentally, without being consciously aware of what you were doing.
EVERYBODY develops some kind of destructive habitual pattern at some point in their lives, whether it’s anger, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, constantly trying to prove themselves, never trusting people, fear of commitment, self doubt, procrastination, fear of failure, nail biting, smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, financial debt, uncontrolled shopping, the list goes on.
Yours happens to be binge eating. That doesn’t make you broken, it makes you human. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’ve simply learnt some unconscious patterns of thought and patterns of behaviour that are not serving you.
But the reason you can’t fix it on your own is because it’s an UNCONSCIOUSLY learned behaviour. We’ve had clients with PhD’s come through our programme to fix their binge or emotional eating issues. That tells you intelligence, logic, analytical, critical thinking isn’t going to help here.
Fully and permanently overcoming binge eating requires reprogramming unconscious emotional associations in your mind.
That requires the help of an expert with a proven track record to teach you a method that actually works, to point out your blind spots, correct your mistakes, give you the distinctions and nuances for how to make this work for you personally, and support you every step of the way.
So would you rather risk wasting years trying to fix it by yourself, only to lose a little more hope and self belief with each failure… or would you rather seek out a great coach with a proven track record who is committed to your success?
And remember another from Brene – “Shame cannot survive being spoken. It cannot survive empathy”. The change starts with you.
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