non-sense and truthful approach to why you are stuck! Stuck in your fat loss, stuck in your business or stuck in your life.
Not one to sugar coat things, I am drawn to write this post from my own experience of being stuck in my 20’s and the past 14 years of coaching and consulting. I speak the truth and I am prepared to be unpopular in doing so.
The following is likely to piss some people off, or some people’s favorite term “trigger” you. It may piss you off because it is confronting, uncomfortable and true.
If you are pissed/triggered/annoyed. Good, ruffled feathers and uncomfortable conversations are often where great change happens. However, if you stay pissed off, good luck with your future… It will be very hard for you to make progress. I am yet to meet a single successful, happy person who has not done this very ONE thing.
In fact, some of our best clients have been pissed off for a few days/weeks/months because they know we hit a nerve but they decided to toughen up, take it on the chin and do something about it. They have not looked back.
This group is full of high achievers, or even over achievers, professional women and those that are successful in many areas of life. Chase Life is about bettering yourself and your life. Not sitting on the sidelines.
If you cannot take the following on the chin, I do recommend you leave and find a comfortable group for sensitive snowflakes. That is not our style and it is not where results lie. For everyone else, let us begin!
The #1 reason women do not have the body or life they are after is because they lack true commitment and graft. There. I said it!
They waste time talking, planning and preparing for the BIG EVENT which is always a Monday… Day 1 of diet… bullshitting themselves about various colourful stories and elaborate excuses. Fast forward 10 years, they are STILL stuck. The same behaviors, the same roadblocks – 99.9% of the time, they are worse.
The problem is, you never FULLY back yourself, your actions or have the belief that you will actually overcome your struggles. Frankly I’m not at all surprised. You never really go ALL IN.
You dabble with superficial, band aid “solutions”, commit only maybe an 8-9/10 and always allow yourself the option of doing something else. Shiny object syndrome. You have failed, multiple times over, yet its the one thing you fear the most.
But here is another truth bomb – you are already failing every day! New promises to yourself, once again, undelivered.
No wonder your confidence has been eroded away…… all those promises of change, yet failure to deliver and follow through. Your integrity is being chipped away. You feel like a shit failure. Again.
THE TIME IS NEVER RIGHT TO MAKE A CHANGE and guess what, the moon and stars will never align for you, life will not get easier, your boss will not give you a break and you won’t magically wake up one day with an extra gift of $10K+ in your bank account to spend on bettering yourself, invest in mentoring, your business or your life.
No one just wakes up “lucky”! Stop “wishing” things were different and do the work to MAKE things different and MAKE your own “luck”.
Stop blaming external stuff for your current position, it is all a choice. Take responsibility. No one can help you unless you help yourself.
WHY ARE YOU SO AFRAID OF SUCCESS?! I know it is because you feel you will be judged or exposed….or you feel you will face an uncertain future…..
I have news for you!
You are already being judged.
You are showing up as someone who you think you should be not who you really are. This doesn’t really fill you with confidence does it? Putting on your mask every morning, not really having any core principles or values to live by? You spend your days people pleasing and doing perfectionism in a feeble attempt to avoid confrontation and judgement. Likely your business and relationships have suffered as a consequence and most importantly your relationship with yourself.
Side note, regarding tenacity and motivation….I seriously laugh out loud to IG motivational posts with meaningless words and pretty pictures that raise your endorphin levels like an excited mouse finding his cheese….. tenacity and the will to carry on through thick and thin comes from knowing who you are, what you stand for and where you are going in life. You will likely NEVER get here alone without strategic behavioral change.
Do the work and invest in yourself. Don’t expect anything for free – self entitlement and instant gratification is the disease of the 21st century…… Don’t have the money now? SAVE IT! Sometimes for years!
Funny how people “find money” for the stuff they don’t need, the excessive loans, plastic surgery, the partying, living outside their means, yet have such little self respect and self love that they deem $4 for a bag of organic spinach expensive.
Consider all of the above…. your life is waiting…. and you are simply killing time. Sorry, it’s true. Money is replenishable, time is not.
Commit FULLY to upgrading your standards and being the BEST version of you or you will arrive at your deathbed in a preserved state, wrapped in cotton wool with a boat load of regrets.
Nothing scares me more than to regret not living and chasing life…….in fact, I fear mediocrity.
It takes courage and balls to be happy.
It takes commitment and tenacity to change your body, your life and your business. It is not luck! You don’t just wake up one day “fit, healthy, wealthy and happy” – you WORK AT IT EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Fear makes you feel alive. Change makes you stay awake. The shit times make you grateful in the good times. Challenges force you to grow and become a better person.
So, grab the bull by the horns, toughen up, do something with yourself, ask for help, be open – and TAKE MASSIVE ACTION, MOVE FORWARD and CHASE LIFE!
I know that “stuck” place, feeling paralysed by stress and overwhelm….. I was there in my 20’s…..I chose another road. So can you….
STOP TALKING, START DOING. Delivered with love xx